To be candid, it is disturbing seeing smart, curvy, beautiful and savvy ladies who are single. This often makes one wonder if the men are either too blind to notice these women or there is something wrong with the ladies themselves.
We have carefully thought of some of the reasons why many of the ladies in the society are single and unmarried. We have also gone on to conduct a research in order to know why this is so and what could be responsible for it.
Find below some of the reasons why there are so many single Nigerian ladies in our society:
1. The parents' factor
We honestly cannot help looking at the reasons why many of our ladies are not married without considering the roles played by their parents.
Some of the elders in the society have led their children astray by pampering them. Most men avoid these spoilt girls because they are obviously not good for marriage. They will rather enjoy their company when it is time to visit clubs and flex.
2. Being too selective
There is no way we will not have lots of single ladies in the society if they refuse to be humble. The ladies we have now are not ready to take nonsense.
They have set standards they expect the men to meet before they can marry them. They expect them to be rich, handsome, famous, sexually oriented and physically endowed. Men on the other hand want women who are calm enough to support them as they move on in life.
They want women who understand the meaning of humble beginnings and would do anything to see that they become successful.
3. Some ladies portray themselves as being independent
Another reason why some ladies are still single is that they do not make marriage a priority. They lay more importance on their aims and goals in life.
They place their career before any other thing. Men are egoistic by nature; the moment they notice a woman has little or no regard for them, they will dump her.
No man wants to be play the second fiddle in a woman's life when he has the chance of being made a king in another woman's life.
4. Lack of respect
There is no way some Nigerian ladies will get hitched if they keep being proud. Men love being with women who respect them and value their opinion.
The reason why there are many single ladies in the society is because most of the men try measuring up to men. They prove they are right always and the men know nothing. These ladies are difficult to manage and the men feel frustrated trying to put them in order.
They make the men feel useless as they always find ways of proving they do not need them. The concerned ladies here take on the issue of gender equality with passion.
5. The men around are players
If you really want to understand why many of these ladies are single, you will have to understand the system.
This is the 21st century where men have gotten used to picking up ladies on the streets and sleeping with them the next minute.
This is the era where marriage has lost its value and men prefer getting everything a holy matrimony offers outside the clause.
Men basically want to explore and have as many women as possible, they also do not mind babies showing up occasionally.
6. Sentiments
Some of our ladies are not ready to let go of the memories of the past. Heartbreaks could be severe but nevertheless, life goes on.
There is no point brooding over a man that has long moved on with his life. Nigerian ladies despite moving on keep treating every man they meet like the exes who messed them up.
This is ridiculous; not every man has a strong threshold to take in things like that. They will rather go for younger girls with cleaner slates.
7. Many of these girls are wild
The girls being raised in this generation are wild. They are used to dating more than two men at a time and find it really difficult sticking to one man.
The phrase 'for better for worse' is something they know they will never be able to stick to. They are materialistic and enjoy the lifestyle that comes with being promiscuous.
The fact that they always want everything in a pack make them lose out on the one person that could have taken them as they are.
8. Family pressure
Some of the young men that ought to marry these ladies have fled because of the pressure mounted on them by the ladies.
Many of these young men want to date the women for a while before proposing marriage while the ladies expect them to come bearing rings. One cannot blame the ladies really, the kind of verbal abuse they take from their loved ones often make them exert more pressure on the men.
Some parents also make their daughters make the wrong choices by pushing them in the wrong direction. They make them become conscious of the things they ought not to consider while choosing life partners.
0 comments: